i read chetan bhagat's article on TOI about depictions shown in movie COCKTAIL...the link to the article is here. so i am writing this post..my two bit sense and opinions on women working, having fun, getting married etc.
what i feel is in every person lies these two personalities...Veronica and Meera...fun loving, exuberant, careless vs responsible mature family oriented.....and it would be very judgemental to think one cannot be with the other..... yes, facts wont change, guys when they want to have a girl friend they want veronica...nobody thinks that meera might also enjoy a night out....it is assumed that meera isn't the type....and when it comes to marriage, guys find it hard to believe that a girl like veronica can be responsible...
as far as guys selecting girls go (going back to my take on chetan bhagat's article)...well, i believe to each his own...some guys want a woman who works while some want a house wife....and same is true with girls...some girls want to work and some are comfortable being housewives....in India, arranged marriages are still very much functional...and successfully so....the good part about it is, these days women too have a say....so they can very well refuse to marry a guy who blatantly tells her that she is not allowed to work post marriage.....women are not just meant for kitchen....so for a guy to expect that his woman leaves everything and sticks to kitchen is completely unreasonable.....but these things get cleared up right at first meet....so girls and guys know if they are interested in the opposite person or not.......
also i believe that girls should work....not just to earn money...but to grow...to keep themselves updated...to learn new things....to break the monotony of day to day routine....you go out....you meet new people....you make decisions....be a part of something big happening in the world.....and trust me your children and husband will be so proud of you when they see the respect you command.....when people appreciate you...for your work, knowledge etc...
wrapping this post up i feel that each of us (girls and guys) have to grow up and become Meera someday....veronica has a mind of a kid...she is still in the pleasure seeking mode...she thinks of nothing besides what will please her.....and one day veronica has to undergo the metamorphosis to become like Meera....that doesnt mean u cant have fun....of course u can...just that u know that there is much more in life than just having fun.... we have to strike a balance between Meera and Veronica....
what i feel is in every person lies these two personalities...Veronica and Meera...fun loving, exuberant, careless vs responsible mature family oriented.....and it would be very judgemental to think one cannot be with the other..... yes, facts wont change, guys when they want to have a girl friend they want veronica...nobody thinks that meera might also enjoy a night out....it is assumed that meera isn't the type....and when it comes to marriage, guys find it hard to believe that a girl like veronica can be responsible...
as far as guys selecting girls go (going back to my take on chetan bhagat's article)...well, i believe to each his own...some guys want a woman who works while some want a house wife....and same is true with girls...some girls want to work and some are comfortable being housewives....in India, arranged marriages are still very much functional...and successfully so....the good part about it is, these days women too have a say....so they can very well refuse to marry a guy who blatantly tells her that she is not allowed to work post marriage.....women are not just meant for kitchen....so for a guy to expect that his woman leaves everything and sticks to kitchen is completely unreasonable.....but these things get cleared up right at first meet....so girls and guys know if they are interested in the opposite person or not.......
also i believe that girls should work....not just to earn money...but to grow...to keep themselves updated...to learn new things....to break the monotony of day to day routine....you go out....you meet new people....you make decisions....be a part of something big happening in the world.....and trust me your children and husband will be so proud of you when they see the respect you command.....when people appreciate you...for your work, knowledge etc...
wrapping this post up i feel that each of us (girls and guys) have to grow up and become Meera someday....veronica has a mind of a kid...she is still in the pleasure seeking mode...she thinks of nothing besides what will please her.....and one day veronica has to undergo the metamorphosis to become like Meera....that doesnt mean u cant have fun....of course u can...just that u know that there is much more in life than just having fun.... we have to strike a balance between Meera and Veronica....
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