Secret of Happier Living

today attended a lecture by swami tejomayanandji on the above mentioned topic....
well m writing here gist of his talk...for everyone to read and try putting in practice these simple practical suggestions for happier living...

• try and make others happy...if by your actions big or small u bring a smile on someone else's face u bound to be happy too...so make others happy in order to be happy.

• let your happiness be independent of any person situation or thing...in short keep the key to happiness in your hands (अपनी ख़ुशी की चाबी कीसी और के जेब मी मत रखो )...you should not let external factors affect your happiness......be free from all these illusions that if u get this or achieve that u ll be happy...by this u just postponing your happiness....and who knows once u reach there or get that u might not really be happy.....learn to be happy now in present...in the situation u r in..
• accept the situation u r in...the world is not going to dance on your tunes...so dont get depressed wen things dont go your way...
• learn to enjoy everything you do...be it your job or some other work...if u start enjoying work needed to be done u ll always be happy and vice versa...see work as joy and not job
  
• LEARN TO LOVE THE PROCESS OF WHAT EVER YOU DO....DONT DO ANYTHING JUS FOR THE FINAL BENEFIT OR RESULT...COZ RESULT IS NOT IN YOUR HANDS..ONLY PUTTING IN YOUR EFFORT IS...SO LEARN TO LOVE THE JOURNEY THEN U LL AUTOMATICALLY BE HAPPY...रस्ते से प्यार कर लो तो फीर मंजील की फीकर कहा
  
• learn to control your desires and anger.....and even if they arise be firm and steady..dont get swept by them....desires give rise to tendencies like envy ,anger(wen not fulfilled) or greed (wen fulfilled)....so learn to have a rein on desires...जब सोने जाओ तो एक मछर हो तो नींद नही आती ....then wen there r so many tendencies how do u expect to get peaceful sleep and be happy.
• dont let your happiness be slave of any particular thing person or situation....make it free independent
• know the fact that there can be only two entities...one is YOU....and the other is the WORLD made of many things etc etc...so if happiness is not in things its not in world..its within u....U have to jus let it manifest....its right there....dont go running around like a musk deer in search of scent wen the origin of scent is very much within u....
• find out the depth of your sorrows...find out if they r really sorrows...coz till u r really sad u wont try to find true happiness....(its like minor head ache which goes off with a pain killer n u feel oh m fine again....wen u get a migraine you jus wanna get rid of it...then there is intense wish to be fine again )...similarly wen u really in a sad state u feel u jus cant take it anymore n wanna get happy...until then u jus be in your make believe happy state (ie take a pain killer to get rid of temporary sorrow and become happy temporarily)
• true happiness should relieve you of all your sorrows and it should not be conditional....if it is conditonal its not true happiness..

i know a lot of it is jus twisting the same thing around and presenting it differently....but i guess it is needed for it to sink in our heads.....and even after stating these in such simple words its quite difficult to put it into practice....have written wat all i cud recollect...if i have missed out anything will update you folks...

one more thing : recipe for unhappiness in simple words...and if u get this it is an indirect route for happiness...beautiful words अपने को जो मीले उसकी उपेक्षा करो और जो न मीले उसकी अपेक्षा करो

on this note m signing off...its 12 20 am now...but had to write it to make things clear in my head...ciao